Point # 4 : The Need of the New Age

When an individual grows he (she) needs more support than what is provided from his family (Parents, elders and siblings). The current life is full of stress and pressure.

These stresses did not exist 20 years ago, in fact the complexities of life are changing much faster than that. One can talk of life as much simpler 5 years ago as compare to now and much simpler 10 years ago as compared to 5 years ago and so on. The term generation gap is no longer an appropriate term as there exist a new gap between even people of the same generation. All this is attributed to the fast changing life.

Time line of a Guy's (girl) Life

Old times (t > 20): finish undergrad education (Age 21) -> Gets a job (Quite a Good one, may struggle some time) (Age 22) -> Gets married (22 - 24) -> life goes on.

Some what new times (10 > t > 20 ) : finish undergrad education (Age 21) -> Gets a job (Ok one)(Age 22) -> Places himself on his own earning (22 - 24) -> Gets married (24 - 26) -> life goes on.

Now a days (t <5):Finish high School(18) -> Get into good undergrad(huge struggle) (19/20) -> Finish undergrad( A lot of competition) (23/24) -> Does one of the following

1. Join some company -> Work for few years -> Higher studies, (MS/MBA) (28/29)
2. Higher studies, MS/MBA (25/26)- > Job and career (27/28)
3. Higher studies, MD, Residency etc -> Job (29/30)
4. Higher studies, PhD -> Job (28/29)
5. Struggles to get a good job (26/28) -> Time to settle or get better job etc (28/30)

More or less @ 28-30 the current generation feels comfortable to settle with a marriage. Now one can see that the age when an individual gets to have a life partner seems to move from 22/24 -> 28/30.

These 6-8 years is not the only thing that has been added in the equation, but also the factors like tension, competition, depression, peer pressure, cost of living, need for higher salary to maintain life style etc have also doubled or even tripled and more. All this additions creates the need for the individual to have a support(some thing what a life partner is suppose to provide) all the more.

Let’s examine what are the possible options and try to work the trade offs.

1. One (S)he gets married earlier, which now this interfere with the other components of life which can be eliminated.
2. Finds that support from the elders (Siblings/Parents/Other Elders) but that kind of gets mixed up due the gap in ideologies and experiences to current issues.
3. Has a good set of friends(Male/female) to support him/her in all the issues, but this is a rare happening and also everyone are involved in their own problems, which drains everything from them.
4. Find a life partner/ GF(BF), court each other and be with each other till the proper time comes and then start life, this person has a higher interest and stake in the individual as it his/her future that is at stake.

Now out of these options to me the last one seems to be the most optimum one and the current system in India doesn't provide space for the same. The time has changed and so has needs.

With out getting into the argument that life is more than computers I will like to give an example, around 1998 PIII were considered fast computers and every one got them but now the computational need (High Speed Internet etc) have risen so much that the same PIII does seem to do it and hence we get PIV and so on.

When even the computers that we use are changing as per our new requirements then why can’t we look for a new system or change it enough to make it suit our needs.

After all life and its needs, are much more important than computers and any computational requirement.