Point # 2 : Lack of support system

Lot of discussing about Love Vs Arranged Marriages is been blogged and since ages discussed. One of the points mostly raised is : AS_PER_STATISTICS arranged marriages are more stable against love marriages. Even though I doubt there exists an authentic source to validate this stat, I will attribute this to the PRESENCE or ABSENCE of a SUPPORT SYSTEM.

The institution of arrange marriages (india) comes with years and years of experience and support. This support system prevents couple from breaking up (divorce) easily. It also helps individuals understand how and why certain things happen in a relation. This support system also puts pressure on the individuals so as to force them to be together.

Whereas, the institution of love marriage, lacks this support system. A couple(young inexperienced) is forced to keep the relationship a secret to begin with and once surfaced have to go thru a lot of troubles before they could get to tie the knot. These troubles in itself may drain most of the energy from the couple, leave alone the days to come.The whole support system in this case is a bunch of (in)experienced friends in most cases that also may not exist. Apart from this you may also have the I_SAID_SO club which will not miss any oppurtunity to split the couple citing the least of the problems.

A energy and enthusiasm drained couple who mostly donot have anyone(from the elderly club) to explain or suggest on any(common) issues in the relationship are prone to make mistakes and take drastic step.

This kind of failure is, hence not a indication of the failure of love marriage but clearly indication of the need for a support system.

There is a need for a good support system for the following

1) Institution of Love Marriage
2) Balancing relationships with other issues of life
3) Love Relationship (Pre Marriage Phase)
4) Dating etc.

Bottom line: All relationship have trouble, it is the support system which helps it sail thru them.

Unusual Point # 1: Love solution to Racial issues.

The society be divided in Class A,B,C,D (based Language,State of residence,Religion, Caste etc.).

A supports all A(s) and hates all D(s) or A gots some preference historically and D was suppressed so now give D some support which effects A. Then there are B and C who were neither known to be historically supported nor given preferential treatment. Etc... is the state of Indian society.

No measures in Practice can eliminate this distinction as long as there is such a distinction alive. So the only way to eliminate the preferential treatment issue all together is to eliminate the cause. The cause is the established distinction . Now how to eliminate that ???

Inter-Racial Marriages (Mostly outcome of love marriages) would eliminate the distinction of an individual into the established class within few generation of such cross combination class identity will get eliminated or will be difficult to maintain.

Eg :
Generation 1 : A1 marries B1 - > AB1, AB2 ; C1 marries D1 - > CD1, CD2
Generation 2 : AB1 marries CD2 - > ABCD1 ABCD2 ....

Hence class distinction in progress of elimination.

A1 marrying B1,C1 or D1 is almost never an outcome of ARRANGED MARRIAGE, infact it is the basic criteria in arranged marriage.

So LOVE (MARRIAGE) is the solution to Racial discrimination/Preference.